Stress, resentment and overeating
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I spoke with a FFR member who works full-time, her husband works full-time, they have 4 kids, she runs her household, carpools, prepares all the meals, gets up at 4:30 am to exercise- (are you stressed for her yet?) and eats chocolate in her car because she resents everything she “has” to do for everyone else. She justifies that she “deserves” the chocolate and thinks, “I’ll show them, I’ll eat this chocolate and no one can stop me.”
Eventually she feels guilty for overeating and for having thoughts of resentment towards her family and eats more to try and feel better. She sees the cycle but most days can’t break it.
As her coach, what would you tell her to help break this pattern? What would you do if this was you? Add your comment below or email me here > and I’ll post it so we can all help her.
I’ll share the strategy I gave her and other FFR members with similar challenges on next week’s Health Coaching show: Wednesday, May 25th at 1:30 pm. Stay tuned for details.
Remember to leave your helpful strategy and comment below so we can all help her “step away from the chocolate”.
As her coach, I would tell her that she is definitely deserving, but not of things that will sabotage all her efforts. Instead, she deserves other things that are just for her: a trashy magazine, a pedicure, 20 minutes for herself every day to go for a walk. She can think instead, “I’m going for this walk and no one can stop me”, instead of “I’ll eat this chocolate and no one can stop me.”
In terms of the chocolate, she should still have it, just not secretly in her car as what ends up being a punishment. Maybe schedule it into her week like she has to do with everything else (i.e. Every Friday night after she puts the kids to bed she can completely indulge in her favorite piece of chocolate). That way, she can still have it, but because it’s planned she won’t feel guilty about it. She also gets to actually ENJOY it, instead of being sneaky about it and feeling guilty later.
May 18th, 2011 at 12:42 pmGreat coaching Alison!
May 18th, 2011 at 3:55 pm