Stress, Resentment, & Over-Eating, part 2: Your solutions
My recent post about Stress, Resentment, & Overeating resonated with many FFR members. Here are some of their solutions about what to do when feeling resentful and resorting to over-eating to feel better. Thanks FFR members for joining the conversation and sharing your personal success strategies! Keep your comments coming!
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Here are FFR members solutions:
Jane- I think its ok to feel resentment. It is so hard to try and please everyone in our lives ALL the time. But eating chocolate is not punishing them only yourself. You work so hard and manage to exercise at 430 a.m. That is amazing! Wouldnt it be better to focus on eating healthy so that you feel great everyday and not feel guilty over something you ate? You deserve that. When i am stressed i focus on my workouts and no matter what my mood is before i workout i ALWAYS feel so much better after
Another suggestion for her would be to make sure she uses the tracker so can keep track of everything she eats! Dont think she will want to keep writing down chocolate
Alison- As her coach, I would tell her that she is definitely deserving, but not of things that will sabotage all her efforts. Instead, she deserves other things that are just for her: a trashy magazine, a pedicure, 20 minutes for herself every day to go for a walk. She can think instead, “I’m going for this walk and no one can stop me”, instead of “I’ll eat this chocolate and no one can stop me.”
In terms of the chocolate, she should still have it, just not secretly in her car as what ends up being a punishment. Maybe schedule it into her week like she has to do with everything else (i.e. Every Friday night after she puts the kids to bed she can completely indulge in her favorite piece of chocolate). That way, she can still have it, but because it’s planned she won’t feel guilty about it. She also gets to actually ENJOY it, instead of being sneaky about it and feeling guilty later.
Elizabeth- She can find other sources of indulgence like alone time to do the things she really wants to do. She can also talk to herself before she eats or buys the chocolate and ask if she would rather feel full or thin (healthy).
Liza- So what’s wrong with eating chocolate?
At first I thought that, and then I realized if she’s eating too much then she’s wasting all the good she’s doing at 4:30 am. You go girl!
Hi Peter,
I can completely relate to so much of what you said and I often have the same reaction as this woman.
What helps me most is to surround myself with healthy options, plan my eating so that I am not craving things I do not necessarily want to have and also make myself wait 10 minutes when an “emotional craving” hits. If after 10 minutes, I still want the food, then I will allow myself the “treat.” What I have tried to do, is choose healthy “treats” and separate them into single servings so that I am not tempted / able to eat an entire package.
I also loved Liza’s comment about wasting all she is doing at 4:30 am! That is a great approach.
Thanks for the posting this. It is always comforting to know that I am not alone in my actions and to hear what other people suggest.
Elizabeth
May 19th, 2011 at 10:25 am