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I shot 3 new segments for 5 Minutes to Fitness+ this morning. One of them was about stress. One of my mentors recently taught me that stress was really an overachievers word for fear. Think about it. What are you stressed about? Isn’t there a component of fear in that stress? Fear that you’ll get [...]more »
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Two words, “Take Action”. My mentor Barry Farber taught me this.
You and I are going to have stress in our lives, that’s a fact. The main determinant of how that stress effects us is how we react to it. We can wallow in sorrow and be paralyzed by anxiety, or we can take action. A Fit Friends’ Revolution member recently experienced tremendous stress in his life. Here’s how he helped himself:
- Identify what is causing you stress; the real reason
- Acknowledge why it’s causing you stress; be honest and sincere about your feelings
- Now, take action toward addressing the stress; make the phone call, set up a payment plan, talk to a mentor, ask for help, define a simple plan of action and take the first step. Keep it Simple!
Taking action works by helping you feel empowered because instead of being a victim of stress, you are now working toward a solution to feel better. It also distracts your mind from feeling helpless to strategizing a way to decrease the negative health effects of stress. This improves self-esteem and self-reliance.
You can do this. If you’re a FFR member and stressed about your health, please don’t hesitate to contact us. We’re all in this together and we can help. Take Action.
A therapist once taught me how to diffuse my stress immediately. She looked me in the eye, smiled, and said, “Peter, you’re just not that important.” What that means is don’t take your self too seriously. When you have negative thoughts, think about mistakes you’ve made or start beating yourself up, smile and let it go. In the scheme of things will it matter in a year, next week or tomorrow?
You also know when you smile you can’t feel crummy. Try it all day today. When you’re feeling stressed, remind yourself that although you are special in many ways, you’re just a one of the grains of sand on this vast beach. Have some fun today.
My recent post about Stress, Resentment, & Overeating resonated with many FFR members. Here are some of their solutions about what to do when feeling resentful and resorting to over-eating to feel better. Thanks FFR members for joining the conversation and sharing your personal success strategies! Keep your comments coming!
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I spoke with a FFR member who works full-time, her husband works full-time, they have 4 kids, she runs her household, carpools, prepares all the meals, gets up at 4:30 am to exercise- (are you stressed for her yet?) and eats chocolate in her car because she resents everything she “has” to do for everyone else. She justifies that she “deserves” the chocolate and thinks, “I’ll show them, I’ll eat this chocolate and no one can stop me.”
Eventually she feels guilty for overeating and for having thoughts of resentment towards her family and eats more to try and feel better. She sees the cycle but most days can’t break it.
As her coach, what would you tell her to help break this pattern? What would you do if this was you? Add your comment below or email me here > and I’ll post it so we can all help her.
I’ll share the strategy I gave her and other FFR members with similar challenges on next week’s Health Coaching show: Wednesday, May 25th at 1:30 pm. Stay tuned for details.
Remember to leave your helpful strategy and comment below so we can all help her “step away from the chocolate”.